Jane and John

As of now, seeing myself standing on the terrace looking back at my past journey in life - I still do not understand why God leads me into such situation. Meeting and mixing with new circle of friends that I have never thought to be in many years back.

Not to say that I am good or whatsoever, but I believe that God has divine plan for me to be here - now.

You know, I am bothered to the facts of how one of my guy friend being treated by his housemate who happens to be my friend too. Let's just call the guy John (not his real name) and the housemate, Jane (not her real name).

John is a free willy type of guy but has a good heart and sweet spirit. He has a battle of his own, in his private life and I could see how, at times he struggled to keep his way in God's path although at times he stumbled. He runs his own business and many times, I seen him closing his business with prayer.

Jane, on the other hand was my schoolmate and we are still friend until now. She works in a big firm with good salary (i think) and involve actively in church. Once a week they will have cell group meeting in their house.

I, for few occassions happens to see how upset John was with his housemate with few issues, although he never shared it to me directly. And last week, I had this conversation with Jane and suddenly, John's issue came into our conversation.

Knowing John, I could understand his feeling and strain to being treated the way he is and I tried to talk reason into Jane. But she seems to have been ruled by her own judgement in John's case.

And looking into the situation, I have my own view.

People like John - they need the Lord. He has a complicated private world, yet part of him have his own personal space for God.

People like Jane - they are bound to be in their comfort zone. They have strong church community ties. They attend cell group every week. They go to church every week. The participate in most activities organized by the church. They involve actively in church.

But, listen to me, again - People like John needs the Lord. Please step out of your comfort zone and lend your hand to lead him on. Just give your agape love unconditionally. Dont judge him. Dont condemn him. All judgement and condemnation are God's.

If you have invited him to your cell group or any church activities, and still he cannot commit, Thank God, you have done your part. Leave it to God to speak into his heart. That simple. You dont have to send SMS with words that hurt. That is not right. Just show your love and care. That simple. Be sincere and keep praying for him. That simple. Let your life be the living example and testimony to him. No words spoken, for action is louder than word. That simple.

I am thankful of how God used me in many ways. I have learn so many things along the way, because I asked for teachable and humble heart. I have been on the mountain, I have been in the valley. But one thing I always asked of God - to rule my heart, my mind and my understanding. I am not boasting my way, but rather - I am thankful that I am not of someone like Jane.

Jane, do you know that our role is to build people -not to condemn and destroy them? I have seen John in his down moment and sometimes I wondered, what would you answer to God when one day, because of how you have treated him and make him feeling down all the time will lead to a drastic change in him - drawing his life away from God 360 degree until the day the Lord come. What would you say?